I was talking to my dad this week and he was describing his father to me, who he invariably speaks of with great admiration. My dad said that my grandfather was a kind, patient, and respectful man who treated others with courtesy, while still maintaining expectations of how he should be treated in return. As a single parent after the death of my grandmother from … Continue reading Boundaries: Why Some People Can’t See Them
Signs to KNOW if Someone is Manipulative One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that manipulative people don’t go out of their way to engage with people who aren’t wise to them. They only spend time and energy on people who they have identified as perceptive. Manipulative people target perceptive people because they have the need to neutralise a threat. They’re trying … Continue reading Coercive Control: How it Works on Perceptive People
Who really has the moral high ground? Do Christians have the moral high-ground over all other people? The simple answer to that question is: No. Nobody has the moral high-ground except God. The only thing which justifies a Christian is the righteousness of Christ Jesus. What then? Are we better than they? Not at all. For we have previously charged both Jews and Greeks that they are all … Continue reading Do Christians Sin?
Why accurate perception of yourself makes you happier. Most people are average. You, me, and probably every person you’ve ever met would fall within the statistical bell-curve or averageness, and this is totally normal and acceptable. In statistics this is known as normal distribution and it looks like this: The majority of the population (68% to be exact) are somewhere within the middle of the … Continue reading Is your self-concept delusional or accurate? The Dunning-Kruger Effect
When impression management of the “nice-guy” leads to deceptive behaviour. Future-faking is a manipulation tool used by coercive people to obtain a short-term objective by giving the illusion of long-term rewards for the victim, which never eventuate. Basically, a carrot on a stick, or a desert mirage. In many cases this tactic is used by scammers, narcissists, MLM schemes, and gambling businesses to extract as … Continue reading Future-Faking People-Pleasers
How do you know if you have been born-again? For someone who is trying to figure out if they have been born-again in Christ and saved from sin, the best determining factor is the in-dwelling of the Holy Spirit. He is the helper who Jesus promised for the disciples; the one who leads us in truth and reforms our character. John 14:15-18 & 25-26 (NKJV) … Continue reading Gifts & Fruit of the Holy Spirit
What is the will of God in these situations? If you read the bible carefully you will be in no doubt that God hates divorce. However, there are some marriages which God hates more than divorce and it is important to know when you’re supposed to persist and when you’re meant to let a relationship go. Some churches and preachers are promoting a strange mixture … Continue reading Divorce & Remarriage
How to be a Spirit-Filled Christian The woman said to Him, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet. Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, and you Jews say that in Jerusalem is the place where one ought to worship.” Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, worship the Father. You … Continue reading Worship in Spirit & Truth