Narcissists view all agreeable relationships as painful, arduous, degrading work. They resent having to be nice to anyone so much that they actually feel entitled to compensation from that person for the effort they made. They aren’t just agreeable when they don’t really feel like it, they’re sickeningly sweet when they don’t need to be. This exaggerated behaviour makes others uncomfortable because instinctively you know … Continue reading How Narcissistic Entitlement Ensnares You

Why a manipulative person is never doing you a favour. If you have encountered a narcissistic manipulator, you will probably have been burned by accepting gifts, favours, or even much needed help before. It may have scarred you so badly that you’re now terrified of asking anyone for anything and even the thought of getting a birthday present fills you with dread. You’re so uncomfortable … Continue reading Beware of Narcissists Bearing Gifts

Is it possible, or WISE, to lack judgement? The statement often seen thrown around on the internet; “judgement is wrong!”… is, in fact, a judgement. Anyone who says that judgement itself is wrong, is engaging in judgement, which means that they also are wrong in making that statement. They’re coming to a conclusion about something and forming an opinion on whether it is good or … Continue reading Non-Judgement

How working for an “energy healer” prompted me to question the pseudo-psychology of self-appointed gurus. For the full presentation, see the video embedded below: Conclusion What would I say is the take-away that I’ve learned from my previous involvement in the New Age? I think, like most people, I went there looking for answers to all the things that seemed wrong with my life and … Continue reading New Age BS?

Why you need to set your expectations HIGHER (not lower) If your expectations are only half of what you actually want, then even if your expectations are met you’re going to be underwhelmed. Can you imagine how bitterly disappointing, demoralising and degrading it is when your expectations are already low and someone still fails to meet them? Why are we not expecting more? Because we … Continue reading Great Expectations

Why Roe v Wade implies that parents have the authority to determine if their children’s lives have merit and value, and the power to abuse that authority if they so choose. Are parents the final arbiters of whether their children’s lives have value or merit, or is there a higher authority than that? Institutions such as child protective services implies that parents do not have … Continue reading What Abortion Tells Victims of Child Abuse

The Bible doesn’t talk about soulmates, but it does have one significant definition of marriage which has the key to discerning who is a genuine keeper and which relationships are destined for failure. What do you look for in a romantic relationship? Culturally we’re told to find someone who looks good on paper: someone who has the right job, comes from the right background, went … Continue reading The #1 Sign You’ve Found the One

Why we’re undeservedly blessed to have a forgiving and merciful God. Now the Lord descended in the cloud and stood with [Moses] there, and proclaimed the name of the Lord. And the Lord passed before him and proclaimed, “The Lord, the Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth, keeping mercy for thousands [of generations], forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children and the children’s children … Continue reading Power, Mercy & Forgiveness in a Narcissistic World