Shame, Guilt, Vulnerability & God’s Love

What Steven Furtick got wrong about the bible, God’s love, and how to deal with pervasive shame in order to experience true forgiveness and reconciliation. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.‭‭Romans‬ ‭12:2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ If I had to categorise the … Continue reading Shame, Guilt, Vulnerability & God’s Love

Navigating Halloween for Christians

Discerning what is appropriate freedom v’s legalism for followers of Jesus with advice from a former witch. Halloween as we know it today is cobbled together from various pagan cultures around the world including Celtic, Greek, and Aztec traditions held around the last week of October to the first week of November. Within the pagan community, a huge diversity of practices and people relate to … Continue reading Navigating Halloween for Christians

Breadcrumbs v’s the Bread of Life

Dealing with spiritually hangry people & why the only cure for emotional starvation is a secure relationship with God. And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.” – John 6:35 (NKJV) I’ve been getting back into bread-making thanks to a friend who is a sourdough master. I haven’t … Continue reading Breadcrumbs v’s the Bread of Life

Active Listening & Hearing God’s Voice

Why do we communicate, and are we bad at it? According to DeVito (2004) we communicate for a variety of reasons as outlined in the diagram below. Very few people waste time or energy on communicating arbitrarily, even if it seems that way sometimes. If you think that someone of simply filling the silence with words, you might not be paying close enough attention to … Continue reading Active Listening & Hearing God’s Voice

Boundaries: Why Some People Can’t See Them

I was talking to my dad this week and he was describing his father to me, who he invariably speaks of with great admiration. My dad said that my grandfather was a kind, patient, and respectful man who treated others with courtesy, while still maintaining expectations of how he should be treated in return. As a single parent after the death of my grandmother from … Continue reading Boundaries: Why Some People Can’t See Them

Coercive Control: How it Works on Perceptive People

Signs to KNOW if Someone is Manipulative One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that manipulative people don’t go out of their way to engage with people who aren’t wise to them. They only spend time and energy on people who they have identified as perceptive. Manipulative people target perceptive people because they have the need to neutralise a threat. They’re trying … Continue reading Coercive Control: How it Works on Perceptive People