Active Listening & Hearing God’s Voice

Why do we communicate, and are we bad at it? According to DeVito (2004) we communicate for a variety of reasons as outlined in the diagram below. Very few people waste time or energy on communicating arbitrarily, even if it seems that way sometimes. If you think that someone of simply filling the silence with words, you might not be paying close enough attention to … Continue reading Active Listening & Hearing God’s Voice

Boundaries: Why Some People Can’t See Them

I was talking to my dad this week and he was describing his father to me, who he invariably speaks of with great admiration. My dad said that my grandfather was a kind, patient, and respectful man who treated others with courtesy, while still maintaining expectations of how he should be treated in return. As a single parent after the death of my grandmother from … Continue reading Boundaries: Why Some People Can’t See Them

Coercive Control: How it Works on Perceptive People

Signs to KNOW if Someone is Manipulative One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that manipulative people don’t go out of their way to engage with people who aren’t wise to them. They only spend time and energy on people who they have identified as perceptive. Manipulative people target perceptive people because they have the need to neutralise a threat. They’re trying … Continue reading Coercive Control: How it Works on Perceptive People

Do Christians Sin?

Who really has the moral high ground? Do Christians have the moral high-ground over all other people? The simple answer to that question is: No. Nobody has the moral high-ground except God. The only thing which justifies a Christian is the righteousness of Christ Jesus. What then? Are we better than they? Not at all. For we have previously charged both Jews and Greeks that they are all … Continue reading Do Christians Sin?

Is your self-concept delusional or accurate? The Dunning-Kruger Effect

Why accurate perception of yourself makes you happier. Most people are average. You, me, and probably every person you’ve ever met would fall within the statistical bell-curve or averageness, and this is totally normal and acceptable. In statistics this is known as normal distribution and it looks like this: The majority of the population (68% to be exact) are somewhere within the middle of the … Continue reading Is your self-concept delusional or accurate? The Dunning-Kruger Effect

Future-Faking People-Pleasers

When impression management of the “nice-guy” leads to deceptive behaviour. Future-faking is a manipulation tool used by coercive people to obtain a short-term objective by giving the illusion of long-term rewards for the victim, which never eventuate. Basically, a carrot on a stick, or a desert mirage. In many cases this tactic is used by scammers, narcissists, MLM schemes, and gambling businesses to extract as … Continue reading Future-Faking People-Pleasers